The greatest feeling in the world is that of being loved. We long for it and dream of it. Some of us yearn for it with an all encompassing passion reminiscent of the thirst for a drop of water in a hot barren desert with only sun and sand in sight for miles around.
Rumi, one of the world’s most revered mystical poets had something to say about love. He said “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
In other words, there are things that you think and do that stop you from receiving an abundance of love in your life. Awareness is the key to identifying and releasing these barriers that we carry in our hearts. So today, let’s look at these barriers within yourself that you have built against love and let go of them one by one.
Loving yourself is a very important and crucial part of receiving love. If you do not love yourself, all the situations that you draw into your life will reflect the way you actually feel about yourself. In other words, if you constantly tell yourself you are ugly and that nobody loves you, guess what!, you will attract people and situations into your life that affirm these thoughts that you have about yourself, whether it’s the boyfriend who keeps picking on your looks or whether it’s you being the butt of jokes wherever you go.
Lesson Nbr 1: Make up your mind from this very moment that you are a beautiful, incredible being, deserving and worthy of love. Look at yourself in the mirror every morning , peer deeply into you eyes with immense love and compassion, and say to yourself “I am an incredibly beautiful person. I deserve the best that life has to give me. I am worthy and deserving of love. I am deeply loved and I am surrounded by love always” It may be difficult in the beginning , especially after a life time of self bashing thoughts, but persevere and slowly but surely you will start to see the changes in your life.
Barriers to receiving Love
If I were to tell you that right now your Soulmate is waiting for you just outside your door longing to see you , what would be your first reaction. What is the first thought that comes into you mind. No cheating, and you have 10 seconds to respond!
You’d be surprised at some of the answers people have to give to this question. “Oh I’m tooo fat. I need to lose 10 kilos” or “I’m not sure if this person is the one for me, let’s see” or ” So soon?.. I’m not ready!” etc. If your reaction was any of these, is it any surprise you have yet to find your Soulmate.
Think about it. “So soon?..I’m not ready yet”. In other words you expect your Soul mate to come into life in some future time, but you don’t expect it to happen now. You think this will happen some time later and you’re not ready for it if it comes into your life straightaway. If you constantly go through life with this expectation, would it be any surprise that your soulmate hasn’t arrived, when all you do is think that it’s something that’s going to happen in the future. Allow yourself to expect that your soulmate is available now and that you are happy and excited about his presence now. The more you think in terms of having you soulmate now, the more you will actually have him or her now.
Another example ” Oh.. I’m not skinny yet. I need to lose 10 kilos”. Accept yourself the way you are. Find the joy and beauty of who you are in this moment. Make a plan to lose your weight, but affirm in this moment and forever more that you are worthy of receiving your mate now, that your mate loves you the way you are now.
So Lesson Nbr 2: Look at the thoughts that you have in your mind that stop you from receiving love, and decide from now on , you will give those thoughts a positive slant with the expectation that you are already in receipt of love, and above all, incredibly worthy and deserving of it.
We often bump into people that constantly carp about the things that are wrong in their life. They are cranky , irritable and miserable and drag everybody else down with them into their cesspool of negativity. Do not expect the Universe to reward you with the things you want if you are not grateful for what you already have.You will attract things into your life that are a reflection of what you believe. If you constantly go through life thinking, ” I hate my life”, your situation will continue to be the same. It is not going to get better when your soul mate arrives, when you have a new job or when you have a new house. You will still continue to find reasons to hate life. Instead of looking at life this way, think in terms of ” I love my life, I have everything I need.I am grateful and happy for all the things that are there in my world. Life is beautiful” When you think in this manner, you will constantly be amazed . An attitude of gratefulness creates expectancy of good things to come and a joyfulness in things already received. The Universe will shower you with blessings that support your new found positive state of mind.
It’s true that many of us have gone through an incredible amount of pain and trauma in our past relationships which makes us wonder whether we could ever be capable of giving or receiving love again. To this I say, Time is a great healer, but it is more important to learn to release your pent up feelings of pain and sadness to return to your natural state of joy . We cannnot go through the rest of our lives feeling hurt, bitter or angry. You deserve the best in life and you are incredibly deserving to receive all the wonderful things that life has to offer. Hang in there , it will get better.
In future pages and blog posts I will be looking at how to heal from past hurts in more detail. For now, know this.
Love surrounds you always. Align your thoughts towards positivity and the expectancy of great things to come, because The Universe is waiting on the outskirts to shower you with more blessings than you ever dreamed possible.