Category Archives: Relationships

Relationships form the crux of our lives here on earth, for it’s simply not possible to go through life as a one-man island. We meet and interact with people daily whether it’s at work, at home or at leisure. By having and building good relationships we learn more about ourselves and others, and gain peace, trust and security from the knowing that we are not alone.

Life After Life, The Many Rebirths of the Soul

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The subject of reincarnation tends to split people into 3 groups. The way, I suppose, any controversial topic would :-).                 reincarnation-1

On one side you have the believers, and on the other, the opposers. And somewhere in between, the middle ones who could go either this way or that, depending on what time of the weather it was, and who was present company.

Being a non-denominational spiritual healer, I think it’s anyone’s guess which side of the fence I sit on, although I prefer not to judge and I certainly understand from which line of defence the nay-sayers come.  It’s difficult to be a spiritual healer without acknowledging the immortality of the soul, since our work is essentially to bring the soul back to it’s original state of grace. It’s not really about healing the body, although that could be a starting point or even the end, or a bright happy coincidence along the way.

Funnily enough, reincarnation wasn’t actually my topic of choice for today, but it came as one of these daily prompt exercises on WordPress and that sort of inspired me to share some of the thoughts and learnings I’ve gleaned to my fellow bloggers and loyal blog followers.

Did you know, for instance, that once you pass on from one life, your soul actually sits in for a life review in front of enlightened beings, and you go through each and every single moment of your life with them, and discuss and understand the reasons and the results of every thought and action you had ever made. You then have a choice to come back to the world again, in another form or shape, if it was felt that that was crucial for your soul’s progress and learning.

I’ve also come to realise that many people’s unresolved conflicts in their current lives, often have past life origins. You may be able to trace your unexplainable fear of water to a drowning in a past life several hundred years ago . Your fear of closed spaces could be because you were buried alive in the ground by rival tribal factions. Many clients have been able to release themselves from these type of issues during past life hypnosis sessions, where the root cause of their issues comes to light. Sometimes awareness of the origins of all our problems and acknowledging them is all that is required to heal and move on in our lives.

timeWe also have soul contracts or agreements with each and every person that we meet or have come across in our entire lives! That’s right! No meeting is by chance. Every meeting that you have was pre-ordained, for your specific growth and enlightenment. This is of course, is aside from your inner circle of family and friends who have come back with us life after life to help our soul work through difficult spots, release the fears and find it’s way home. That thought in itself is kind of humbling you know? It kind of makes me look at everyone differently and understand them maybe just a wee bit more.

In parting, I guess I’d just like to say whilst all this debate about the validity of reincarnation continues to rage unabated, the real key learning to take away from it all is that at the end, what happened in the past  really doesn’t matter does it? In the grand scheme of things, it only serves as a guide post and a roadmap for the future. All that counts is where you are right now, and what you make of it from this step on. Namaste! 🙂

© Irene Lopez  and An Urban Mystic’s Blog, 2013

Daily Prompt: Karma Charmeleon

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In Search of Love

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The greatest feeling in the world is that of being loved.  We long for it and dream of it. Some of us yearn for it with an all encompassing passion reminiscent of the thirst for a drop of water in a hot barren desert with only sun and sand in sight for miles around.

Rumi, one of the world’s most revered mystical poets had something to say about love. He said “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

In other words, there are things that you think and do that stop you from receiving an abundance of love in your life. Awareness is the key to identifying and releasing these barriers that we carry in our hearts. So today, let’s look at these barriers within yourself that you have built against love and let go of them one by one.

Loving yourself

Loving yourself is a very important and crucial part of receiving love. If you do not love yourself, all the situations that you draw into your life will reflect the way you actually feel about yourself. In other words, if you constantly tell yourself you are ugly and that nobody loves you, guess what!, you will attract people and situations into your life that affirm these thoughts that you have about yourself, whether it’s the boyfriend who keeps picking on your looks or whether it’s you being the butt of jokes wherever you go.

Lesson Nbr 1: Make up your mind from this very moment that you are a beautiful, incredible being, deserving and worthy of love. Look at yourself in the mirror every morning , peer deeply into you eyes with immense love and compassion, and say to yourself “I am an incredibly beautiful person. I deserve the best that life has to give me. I am worthy and deserving of love. I am deeply loved and I am surrounded by love always” It may be difficult in the beginning , especially after a life time of self bashing thoughts, but persevere and slowly but surely you will start to see the changes in your life.

Barriers to receiving Love

If I were to tell you that right now your Soulmate is waiting for you just outside your door longing to see you , what would be your first reaction. What is the first thought that comes into you mind. No cheating, and you have 10 seconds to respond!

You’d be surprised at some of the answers people have to give to this question. “Oh I’m tooo fat. I need to lose 10 kilos” or “I’m not sure if this person is the one for me, let’s see” or ” So soon?.. I’m not ready!” etc. If your reaction was any of  these,  is it any surprise you have yet to find your Soulmate.

Think about it. “So soon?..I’m not ready yet”. In other words you expect your Soul mate to come into life in some future time, but you don’t expect it to happen now. You think this will happen some time later and you’re not ready for it if it comes into your life straightaway. If you constantly go through life with this expectation, would it be any surprise that your soulmate hasn’t arrived, when all you do is think that it’s something that’s going to happen in the future. Allow yourself to expect that your soulmate is available now and that you are happy and excited about his presence now. The more you think in terms of having you soulmate now, the more you will actually have him or her now.

Another example ” Oh.. I’m not skinny yet. I need to lose 10 kilos”. Accept yourself the way you are. Find the joy and beauty of who you are in this moment. Make a plan to lose your weight, but affirm in this moment and forever more that you are worthy of receiving your mate now, that your mate loves you the way you are now.

So Lesson Nbr 2: Look at the thoughts that you have in your mind that stop you from receiving love, and decide from now on , you will give those thoughts a positive slant with the expectation that you are already in receipt of love, and above all, incredibly worthy and deserving of it.

Gratefulness

We often bump into people that constantly carp about the things that are wrong in their life. They are cranky , irritable and miserable and drag everybody else down with them into their cesspool of negativity. Do not expect the Universe to reward you with the things you want if you are not grateful for what you already have.You will attract things into your life that are a reflection of what you believe. If you constantly go through life thinking, ” I hate my life”, your situation will continue to be the same. It is not going to get better when your soul mate arrives, when you have a new job or when you have a new house. You will still continue to find reasons to hate life. Instead of looking at life this way, think in terms of ” I love my life, I have everything I need.I am grateful and happy for all the things that are there in my world. Life is beautiful” When you think in this manner,  you will constantly be amazed . An attitude of gratefulness creates expectancy of good things to come and a joyfulness in things already received. The Universe will shower you with blessings that support your new found positive state of mind.

So Lesson Nbr 3: Thing in terms of gratefulness for all love that you are receiving now, and you will continue to receive more of the same in leaps and bounds.

It’s true that many of us have gone through an incredible amount of pain and trauma in our past relationships which makes us wonder whether we could ever be capable of giving or receiving love again. To this I say, Time is a great healer, but it is more important to learn to release your pent up feelings of pain and sadness to return to your natural state of joy . We cannnot go through the rest of our lives feeling hurt, bitter or angry. You deserve the best in life and you are incredibly deserving to receive all the wonderful things that life has to offer. Hang in there , it will get better.

In future pages and blog posts I will be looking at how to heal from past hurts in more detail. For now, know this.

Love surrounds you always. Align your thoughts towards positivity and the expectancy of great things to come, because The Universe is waiting on the outskirts to shower you with more blessings than you ever dreamed possible.

Much love.