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Healing the Family Tree

Healing The Family Tree. Image credit 67notout.com

Healing The Family Tree.
Image credit 67notout.com

You’d be surprised at the things you inherit from your ancestors. You don’t just share their physical characteristics. You share their emotions, their drive, their intellect, their passions and yes, their illnesses too. Genetics is powerful. Which is why it’s so important to understand and acknowledge the role of your ancestors in your physical, mental and emotional existence. In the words of the ancients, we are the sum and parts of all who have gone before, the ones who surround us now, and the ones who are yet to be born. Our souls are linked from across time and space in very real and palpable ways.

It’s important to really look at our family structure dispassionately and objectively to see for ourselves whether we can trace the origins or roots of our difficulties to our family tree.  Closely examine the male and female ancestral lines in your family. Do you see a pattern in your disharmony?

Our beliefs and emotions are ingrained in us from our childhood as a result of the interactions with our family and significant others, and our own direct experiences. Our parents in turn, are the products of the feelings and emotions of their parents and significant others, as well as their own direct experiences. These emotions and feelings get passed down through the family line from one generation to the next along with the physical makeup and structures unique to the induvidual lineage.

If your great-grandfather suffered greatly during a time of great war and persecution, you may have inturn inherited the several inexplicable fears and anxieties with which you’ve been struggling your entire life to resolve. Perhaps your family history is littered with accounts of sudden traumatic deaths , miscarriages, or various types of addictions, as a result of which you indirectly struggle with issues of fear, guilt , infertility and disease.

If your family history is fractured with negativity, it does not mean that it is irreparable damage and that all is lost! There are ways and means of healing yourself and moving forward with your life. All that is required from your side is a willingness to make peace with the past. Whilst a skilled healer can help you uncover the roots of discordancy in your life,  it is still OK if you do not have access to one. Each one of us is capable of healing ourselves, and doing a darn good job of it :-).Patience and persistence is the key. There are many ways to release yourself from the inherited pains of your ancestors , and a very simple way to do this is by honouring your ancestors and allowing them , quite simply, to heal you.

Altar for the Ancestors

Altar for the Ancestors, image credit kiwimojo.com

Create an altar with pictures of your ancestors or atleast visual representations of them( if you have no pictures or prefer not to use them). Line the altar additionally with spiritual objects that bring you happiness and peace. Light candles, burn incense and feel the air of the room start to clear. Once you’ve done this, genuinely reach out to all your ancestors. Appreciate and honour their beautiful and continued presence in your life. Thank them for sharing their thoughts and feelings with you. Ask that they heal and take away all the illnesses and pain that do not belong to you so that you may be free to live your life with peace. And finally thank them for their release and seek their blessings.

This ceremony looks rudimentary on the outside but don’t allow it’s simplicity to dissuade you from it’s efficacy and power. If performed with a true heart and pure intentions, honouring and acknowledging your ancestors and having them heal you can change your entire life for the better.

When our past is a fundamental aspect of the reason for our existence , it makes sense to make peace with it, if only to make a better present for ourselves and an even happier future for our children.


© Irene Lopez  and An Urban Mystic’s Blog, 2013


Post card from An Urban Mystic in Chiang Mai

An Urban Mystic in Chiang Mai

© An Urban Mystic in Chiang Mai, at the foot of Doi Suthep.

This week’s post was originally supposed to have been called ” The Law of Attraction Part IV” , but I just had to take a moment to pause, reflect and put pen to paper ( or is it key to monitor?) my thoughts from over the last few weeks. Destiny sometimes takes you into the most unexpected places at the most unexpected times. And with good reason. Sometimes the perspectives of an entire lifetime can change in an instant. And so it was this time when I travelled to Chiang Mai.

Chiang Mai, relatively lesser known than it’s more populous counterpart Bangkok, is the second largest city in Thailand. A calm and peaceful haven which appeals to both back packers and luxury tourists alike, Chiang Mai is fast becoming a must-do on the average tourist’s Thailand itinerary. Tourist attractions include site visits to historical places of interest, elephant farms, night markets, cooking classes, yoga, meditation and massage schools. However, the big highlight of the trip for me ( aside from learning how to cook pad thai :-)) was my morning alms giving to Buddhist monks and the site visit to Wat Phrathat Doi Suthep, more popularly known as Doi Suthep, a spectacular Buddhist temple which is visible from any vantage point within Chiang Mai.

Doi Suthep

© Doi Suthep, Chiang Mai, Thailand

I was eager and excited about seeing Buddhist monks , having felt a closeness to Buddha ever since I was a child. And I was hoping in my own whimsical way that my tour guide would be someone who would make me comfortable with that whole experience of receiving blessings and visiting a highly revered Buddhist temple. As it turned out, Joy just happens to be a remarkable woman full of innate grace and compassion. 3 hours flew by like racing thunderbirds in her illumined presence and contained wisdom. “A lot of people are unhappy with their lives, wanting to end them and escape. Many talk of committing suicide even. But this life, it’s incredible. And they are many things that are beautiful and joyous in living. The important thing is to control your thoughts. Because it’s your thoughts that lead you down through that never ending spiral,” she said as she drove us both towards the foot of Doi Suthep. And she would know wouldn’t she?, having lost her husband, brother and son , all within the close space of 2 years.

Joy says she started to meditate in an attempt to control her thinking, especially after the many tragedies she encountered in her life. She found it difficult initially, but with consistent practice is now able to sit for periods of upto an hour daily in meditative silence.” When you meditate, let the thoughts surface and drift. Observe and consider. In your life too consider the things that happen around you without judgement. Reach a point where you are able to consider and not judge and question everything that occurs in your life.” I guess for many of us city dwellers and/or restless souls, that really is key. Being able to reach that stage in life where things don’t ruffle you, and you can see the events that go on in your life for what they really are,without struggle and strife.

Joy, my Tourguide from Blue Elephant Tours, Thailand

© Joy, my Tourguide from Blue Elephant Tours, Thailand

Joy also found a lot of other benefits in maintaining a regular and consistent meditation practice. She now has incredible focus and concentration, and finds that she is able to handle multiple tasks simultaneously without feeling overwhelmed. She also has increasing ability to stay in the present moment and have her mind focus on the person or task at hand. “Worrying about the future is fear based thinking. Your life is what goes on in the present moment. Don’t worry about the things yet to come and lose sight of what you have now.”

Joy taught me many things during the drive and her educational tour. A lot of things I already knew in a fuzzy sort of way, but somewhow hearing everything from her perspective, phrased in a different sort of turn, made everything start to make sense and fall into place.

When I eventually kneeled before my monk , having placed into his alms-bowl my small offerings of food , all my fears and worries had dissolved into a calm, clear pool of nothingness. I poured water from the jug onto the ornate silver plate asking for the blessings of my ancestors, forgiveness for any wrong doings and resolution from my accumulated karmas. The sound of the chants and their blessings exploded into my head in a rush of light and heat energy as I made my merit to the spirits of the past. My future is ahead of me and a treasure of immense value. It is worth holding onto and worth looking forward to.

Hopefully your moment of Nirvana doesn’t have to arrive miles away in Chiang Mai like it did for me. But I hope that when it does, you can recognise it and learn to apply it in a way that helps you see the true beauty and light that already exists in your life.


© Irene Lopez  and An Urban Mystic’s Blog, 2013